Dating is hard because it's vulnerable. Our emotions are involved and it's almost inevitable that we get hurt. But avoiding hurt isn't the goal of dating, finding connection is.

Now the choice is yours - do you speed up the process or slow it down? Do you go bravely into the world in search of your person or hide away because you remember the pain of your last disappointment or heartbreak?

What step might you need to take right now that feels risky and scary because you don't know if you'll succeed or get what you want?

Why do we care so much about confidence to begin with? Why is this a concept that matters to so many people? If I had to guess, because we’ve seen over and over again that confident people seem to get better outcomes.

If you want to be confident at work, magnetic in your dating life, secure in your interpersonal relationships, the game is not to look for proof from the princes on the dating apps (lol) because that would be like Cinderella walking into the ball still in rags and asking someone to tell her she looks like a princess. The game is to find all the whispers of the evil stepmothers and stepsisters of your past and show them the door.  

The biggest thing our brain perceives as danger (even if sometimes unfairly)? Change. 

When you're in the early stages of dating (we're talking dates 1-5), do you find yourself constantly analyzing the text conversation, thinking in great detail on the right thing to say, how frequently to text, etc.?

If you pause for a second and really get honest, is there an area of your life where you're being really hard on yourself? Given you ended up here, there's obviously a higher probability that dating is one but are you really hard on yourself about why you aren't already making six figures or why you said that awkward thing at your dinner last night?

If there's one thing you have probably heard over and over again if you are even a tiny bit in the personal development/self-help space, it's some version of “you have to love yourself first” or “what you want will come to you when you feel worthy of it.”  

The promise was that this wording shift would kick you into high gear on the things that are important in your life and make you face clearly, the things that might be distracting you.

Dating is hard because it's vulnerable. Our emotions are involved and it's almost inevitable that we get hurt. But avoiding hurt isn't the goal of dating, finding connection is.

Nobody wants to give bad relationship advice but sometimes, we can be speaking from our current feelings - good or bad. So we're going to do a quick recap of dating and relationship advice to stop giving and what to say instead.

While solo travel can help you get comfortable being alone, its most powerful benefit is learning to be comfortable with being challenged. And in this way, my philosophy toward solo travel and dating converge.

How do you decide if a relationship is right for you? When you are starting to get to know somebody, how can you be sure that they’re the right fit? These are common questions asked by those dating but this question has a problematic understanding of the components of a good relationship. I’m breaking down why you should stop caring about being sure.

I've asked myself, "Are my standards too high?" and "Did they just get lucky?" I've compared myself to friends, wondering what was different about them that maybe I should strive more to be. I wondered if maybe it was my tactics…

Whether or not you’re into self help books, there are always books out there that can give you new perspective and force you learn something about yourself. I collected a list of my favorites for self-development, I wanted to share with you…