Pull up a chair, it’s time for some big sister advice.

People pleasing, perfectionism, anxious attachment.
Negotiating your first big raise, setting up a 401K, taxes.
The talking stage, red flags, dating apps.
How to eat solo at a bar, London restaurants, skincare.

If it’s something I’ve navigated (or am currently working through), I guarantee I have something to say about it.

I ORDERED FRENCH FRIES AND A BOTTLE OF WINE.

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Your simple plan to stop living to please.

Whether you’re on day 1 or 1000 of your recovering “good girl” era, the no brainer place to start is my mini-course, “Debunking the Need to Please”.

Every day for the next 6 days, I’ll drop a juicy email in your inbox with some of my biggest aha’s, some of the practices that have helped me and the important reminders, specifically for the overachiever type, to help you really understand what it’s going to take to tackle that people pleasing and stop caring so much what other people think. The best part, it’s totally free.

At this point, I’ve talked to hundreds of women at various stages of trying to build confidence, raise their self-worth, improve their dating life, money mindset, discipline and more, so I’m pretty good at spotting the patterns. Drop your question or the situation you want advice on at the link below and I’ll pick 1-2 to answer in my monthly email!

(I wish I had enough hours in the day to answer everybody but my social battery and inbox couldn’t handle it, so if yours isn’t chosen, make sure you’re also following along on social because I try to cover common topics more generally in videos so I can help as many of you as I can.)

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ABOUT SAM

I am not a guru.

(But don’t worry, you don’t need one.)

I am a girl who spent her teens and twenties chasing the the checkboxes. Get into a great school? Check. Get an impressive job? Check. Be social so you can meet new people? Check. Get promoted so you have something to tell people when you’re at cocktail parties? Check. Figure out how to read people so you can fit in? Check.

I’m also a girl who was approaching (and is now in) her thirties and realized none of it was actually making her feel the way she wanted to. I was still struggling with not feeling fulfilled, with accepting shitty behavior in my dating life and with avoiding hard conversations because I was too afraid of being rejected.

So I made it my mission over the last five years to address these patterns and figure out what it really takes to feel “good enough” and legitimately like my life and myself. And as a big sister, I’m genetically unable to not share helpful advice when I know it will help, so I’m here to share what I’ve learned.

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