I’ve felt off and it made me feel like a fraud to admit it. There's a funny thing that happens when your job becomes “Confidence Coach.” You spend your working hours telling people that their difficult feelings are normal and that we need to honor everything that we're experiencing (because what we resist persists y'all).

We have all heard about it but what does self-sabotage look like and how do we stop self-sabotaging? In this post, we’re going to talk abou the most common ways I see clients self-sabotaging and help you understand what’s underneath these behaviors so you can apply the insights in your life to stop getting in your own way!

In celebration of my birthday, I thought it’d be fun to collect some of the lessons I’ve learned in the last year, since I turned 30. Everytime I do these sort of reflections I’m always so encouraged by how far I’ve come in the period of time, that we’re often so quick to skim over and ignore in the motivation to move on to the next. So for now, I bring to you, on the occasion of my 31st birthday, 31 things I’ve learned this year…

It’d be nice if it was as simple as “stop doing so much” and “start asking for help more” but I have lived experience totally understand that when you’ve been an overachiever for decades, asking for help can be really friggin’ hard. Why? Because it triggers all sorts of stories about our value, what we bring to the table and much more.

When something goes wrong in your life do you worry that it's may be because you aren't good enough? Do you often evaluate yourself against other people in your life and feel like you don’t measure up?This worry about not being “good enough” is one of the most common complaints I hear from overachievers, people pleasers and perfectionists and it makes sense because those behaviors are related to this fear.

It’s an experience everybody goes through at some point in life - things were working for a while and somewhere along the way, almost without you noticing, you transitioned into a different period. This period, where you feel stuck. So I wanted to give you a little free resource if you’re feeling in this “stuck” mode - some great journal prompts to use to work through the stuck.

Why is people pleasing bad and where does people pleasing come from? Some incredibly common questions in my community so it was time to dive deep on this incredibly common behavior so we can understand how to shift it.

If you are wondering how to deal with self-doubt and feeling like you’re constantly battling the negative self-talk, this article will give you the real world behind the scenes advice on what to do to address negative self-talk so you can feel more confident, according to a confidence coach for high achieving women.

if you have noticed that you struggle to make decisions on your own, you often doubt or second guess your decisions after you’ve made them and you’re not sure your assessment of situations is always accurate, it may be a sign that you struggle with self-trust.

Struggling with the emotional highs and lows of online dating? I have strong opinions on what’s going on in that experience of feeling offended by the likes you’re getting on the apps and wanting to give up. And I want to make it a little easier!

Your mindset is one of the most basic and fundamental dictators on how we show up in our lives. It’s so basic that most of us, unless you are deep into personal development spaces, might not even have a clear idea of what mindset really is.

But we all observe that people who have “good,” effective or helpful mindsets seem to be more fulfilled and successful and those with “bad,” destructive or inconsistent mindsets seem to struggle. Does a good mindset directly lead to being fulfilled and/or successful? Can you be successful with a bad mindset? What about fulfilled?

If you hear all this talk about why boundaries are important but want to really understand what it means to set a boundary and what might happen when you start communicating boundaries in your friendships, relationships and work life, this post is for you.

If you want access to the network of free stuff, rewards and benefits, it all comes back to cultivating your ability to ask for what you want. Getting over your fears around rejection or what people will think is the key to more confident, a more luxe life and more ease day-to-day

I’ve been thinking a lot over the past few weeks about my business, my lifestyle, what I want for myself long term. And I will admit that there were a solid weeks at least where I was considering shutting this business down and starting from scratch. But I realized I’d be doing y’all a disservice if I wasn’t open about what’s been going on in my head as I’ve navigated the last 9 months and the biggest learning I’m working through personally because I know that you probably need to hear it as much as I did.

Society puts enormous pressure around our thirtieth birthday. Expectations around getting married before thirty or what you should be earning by thirty can be debilitating. I’m breaking down on my thoughts on the deadline and what to do about it.

Because we cannot control the entire world around us, in order to be successful (i.e. have the lifestyle, love, income, schedule, etc. that we desire) we have to learn how to work WITH a world that we do not control, not struggle AGAINST it. So how do you get the world do what you want it to do?

Unpacking the common reasons why you might be being overlooked for promotions, dates and generally not getting the attention you desire. If you are tired of being the good girl, helper, dependable one but don’t know what you’re doing wrong to be so invisible to your coworkers and men, read this to figure out how to get people to pay attention to you more.

If you are an overachiever that’s tired of feeling burnt out and exhausted, you need to understand that the way to stop people pleasing and how to find a partner who will carry his half of the bargain is in looking at the danger of overacheiving.

Do you feel like you're constantly on a treadmill in terms of working toward the life you want? Like the to-do list never ends and just when you work through one piece of self-doubt another one pops up?

Do you ever call a friend to talk about a bad day and really just need to vent? But when you get on the phone and start talking they immediately jump in to provide suggestions. It's one of the worst feelings, when you really just need someone to listen and tell you it's going to be okay.