The more I’ve unpacked why I was certain patterns in adulthood that was hurting my confidence, my dating life, friendships and more, the more I understood that many of them came back to this same truth...

Being the “good girl” had fundamentally shaped who I was as a person and not always for the better.

So for all of you “good girls” out there, I think it’s time we spend a moment unpacking what are some of the things we learn being a “good girl” growing up that aren’t helping us feel good as adults (and what to do about it).

Your mindset is one of the most basic and fundamental dictators on how we show up in our lives. It’s so basic that most of us, unless you are deep into personal development spaces, might not even have a clear idea of what mindset really is.

But we all observe that people who have “good,” effective or helpful mindsets seem to be more fulfilled and successful and those with “bad,” destructive or inconsistent mindsets seem to struggle. Does a good mindset directly lead to being fulfilled and/or successful? Can you be successful with a bad mindset? What about fulfilled?

There is nothing like summer on Nantucket. It is truly my happy place. A lot of Nantucket charm is the insider spots, the hard to find beaches and the unfinished moments, so I absolutely recommend not trying to overschedule your time on the island. Time is supposed to slow down on the island - enjoy it!

The number one sign that you care too much what other people think is if you spend a ton of time trying to predict what they’re thinking and feeling. In short, trying to read minds. Now before you click away, you might be thinking - “uh, yeah, stating the obvious, if I care what other people think, I spend time trying to figure out what they think.”

And there, my friend, is the issue.

If you hear all this talk about why boundaries are important but want to really understand what it means to set a boundary and what might happen when you start communicating boundaries in your friendships, relationships and work life, this post is for you.

Do you wonder whether journaling can help mental health? This will talk through why it’s so beneficial if you struggle with overthinking, anxiety and people pleasing and detail the actual journal prompts a mindset and confidence coach uses for her own reflection (and why they’ll help you move towards more confidence).

If you want access to the network of free stuff, rewards and benefits, it all comes back to cultivating your ability to ask for what you want. Getting over your fears around rejection or what people will think is the key to more confident, a more luxe life and more ease day-to-day

I’ve been thinking a lot over the past few weeks about my business, my lifestyle, what I want for myself long term. And I will admit that there were a solid weeks at least where I was considering shutting this business down and starting from scratch. But I realized I’d be doing y’all a disservice if I wasn’t open about what’s been going on in my head as I’ve navigated the last 9 months and the biggest learning I’m working through personally because I know that you probably need to hear it as much as I did.

Society puts enormous pressure around our thirtieth birthday. Expectations around getting married before thirty or what you should be earning by thirty can be debilitating. I’m breaking down on my thoughts on the deadline and what to do about it.

Because we cannot control the entire world around us, in order to be successful (i.e. have the lifestyle, love, income, schedule, etc. that we desire) we have to learn how to work WITH a world that we do not control, not struggle AGAINST it. So how do you get the world do what you want it to do?

Unpacking the common reasons why you might be being overlooked for promotions, dates and generally not getting the attention you desire. If you are tired of being the good girl, helper, dependable one but don’t know what you’re doing wrong to be so invisible to your coworkers and men, read this to figure out how to get people to pay attention to you more.

If you are an overachiever that’s tired of feeling burnt out and exhausted, you need to understand that the way to stop people pleasing and how to find a partner who will carry his half of the bargain is in looking at the danger of overacheiving.

This is a question I ask myself, and often clients, fairly regularly. But before we dive in too deep on it, let's clarify one thing: there's a helpful and unhelpful kind of safe. The helpful kind of safe is more like “supported.”

Do you feel like you're constantly on a treadmill in terms of working toward the life you want? Like the to-do list never ends and just when you work through one piece of self-doubt another one pops up?

Do you ever call a friend to talk about a bad day and really just need to vent? But when you get on the phone and start talking they immediately jump in to provide suggestions. It's one of the worst feelings, when you really just need someone to listen and tell you it's going to be okay.

I've been thinking a lot lately about the steps that are the most dependable in terms of helping us shift our mindset, actually do what we say we're going to do and begin to feel differently about parts of our lives.

I'll cut right to the chase - there is one core thing that determines whether your life will be better in a month, six months, a year. 

We are all constantly in cycles of growing and dying. If you want to get really philosophical about it, every day we live is both a day of growth (if you're measuring from your birth) and death (if you're measuring from your death.

We are all constantly in cycles of growing and dying. If you want to get really philosophical about it, every day we live is both a day of growth (if you're measuring from your birth) and death (if you're measuring from your death.

There is one tip that you hear over and over again and I know how easy it is to roll your eyes at how obvious it is.