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For the people pleaser, perfectionist, overachiever ready to trade hustling to prove herself for more peace, confidence and calm
Because let’s be honest, all that caring what other people think, anxious attachment and living a life that looks good on paper but leaves you feeling “meh” gets really exhausting.
Your simple plan to stop living to please.
Whether you’re on day 1 or 1000 of your recovering “good girl” era, the no brainer place to start is my mini-course, “Debunking the Need to Please”.
Every day for the next 6 days, I’ll drop a juicy email in your inbox with some of my biggest aha’s, some of the practices that have helped me and the important reminders, specifically for the overachiever type, to help you really understand what it’s going to take to tackle that people pleasing and stop caring so much what other people think. The best part, it’s totally free.
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Let’s just say I have a lot of thoughts about the mindset, habits and tools that help former people pleasers and perfectionists fast track to a more confident, secure, fulfilled version of themselves. You can check them all out below or let me help you find what you’re looking for…
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Are you waiting for this?
Are you saying to yourself: I'll be so happy once I'm in a relationship, I'll be so proud when I get to lead a project by myself, I'll be so confident when I can afford a better wardrobe, I'll be so calm when I can stop overthinking my texts. If so, you need to read this
What to do if you’re overthinking your text messages
When you're in the early stages of dating (we're talking dates 1-5), do you find yourself constantly analyzing the text conversation, thinking in great detail on the right thing to say, how frequently to text, etc.?
Do you need to prove you’re ready for love?
I've been thinking a lot about this concept of “earning a break.” I find some weeks I am completely comfortable completing some list of tasks and then giving myself time to rest. Other weeks, sometimes even when I've been objectively more productive, I feel guilty stopping to rest when there's objectively more to do (or so I tell myself).
Why you should be delusional
When we act delusional, when we start to experience the world as we want it to be rather than what it is, we offer ourselves a new experience before the proof is there.
Want to stop being so hard on yourself?
If you pause for a second and really get honest, is there an area of your life where you're being really hard on yourself? Given you ended up here, there's obviously a higher probability that dating is one but are you really hard on yourself about why you aren't already making six figures or why you said that awkward thing at your dinner last night?
The first step to being more confident
If there's one thing you have probably heard over and over again if you are even a tiny bit in the personal development/self-help space, it's some version of “you have to love yourself first” or “what you want will come to you when you feel worthy of it.”
Dating is not a test to pass
Dating is not a test to pass. Why does dating seem to be such a kryptonite for the confidence of high-achieving women?
What are your priorities right now?
The promise was that this wording shift would kick you into high gear on the things that are important in your life and make you face clearly, the things that might be distracting you.
Why is dating so hard?
Dating is hard because it's vulnerable. Our emotions are involved and it's almost inevitable that we get hurt. But avoiding hurt isn't the goal of dating, finding connection is.
The Dallas Guide
A list of some of my favorite spots from my hometown! An often underestimated city in the US for food, culture and much more.
Dating advice to stop giving and what to say instead
Nobody wants to give bad relationship advice but sometimes, we can be speaking from our current feelings - good or bad. So we're going to do a quick recap of dating and relationship advice to stop giving and what to say instead.
The stigma of solo
While solo travel can help you get comfortable being alone, its most powerful benefit is learning to be comfortable with being challenged. And in this way, my philosophy toward solo travel and dating converge.
The London Guide
London is a magical city made up of lots of smaller neighborhoods, each with their own charm. It is impossible to see it all in one trip but the exploring is the best part!
The Rome Guide
Rome has figured out the whole building a life around eating and relaxing. Dolce far niete as TikTok has taught me! It’s truly a magical historic place!
The Paris Guide
There’s a reason so many people have a love affair with Paris. People talk about it being the most romantic city in the world and think it’s for couples but I can think of at least dozens of people I know who found a little more love for themselves here
Coastal Grandmother Guide to Nantucket
The coastal grandmother aesthetic is here to stay but if you are trying to experience it on Nantucket this summer, here’s the best way to enjoy the coastal grandmother life, nancy meyer’s aesthetic and all!
How can I be sure he’s right for me? Here’s why it shouldn’t matter
How do you decide if a relationship is right for you? When you are starting to get to know somebody, how can you be sure that they’re the right fit? These are common questions asked by those dating but this question has a problematic understanding of the components of a good relationship. I’m breaking down why you should stop caring about being sure.
Mindfulness: how to find more happiness and control in life
Dating is emotional. Sometimes we react to things that trigger us in ways that we aren’t the proudest of. Finding ways to be mindful, through regular practices or using tools in the moment, is a great way to increase that space between the trigger and the response so we can make better decisions.
To the woman who feels like love might not be in the cards for her...
I've asked myself, "Are my standards too high?" and "Did they just get lucky?" I've compared myself to friends, wondering what was different about them that maybe I should strive more to be. I wondered if maybe it was my tactics…
Taking a break from dating? You need to read this.
It's natural to sometimes take a break from your dating life. But some breaks are more helpful than others. Click to read a some dating advice for single women on the types of dating breaks and how to make sure you're getting the most out of your time away from dating.
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