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For the people pleaser, perfectionist, overachiever ready to trade hustling to prove herself for more peace, confidence and calm

Because let’s be honest, all that caring what other people think, anxious attachment and living a life that looks good on paper but leaves you feeling “meh” gets really exhausting.

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Your simple plan to stop living to please.

Whether you’re on day 1 or 1000 of your recovering “good girl” era, the no brainer place to start is my mini-course, “Debunking the Need to Please”.

Every day for the next 6 days, I’ll drop a juicy email in your inbox with some of my biggest aha’s, some of the practices that have helped me and the important reminders, specifically for the overachiever type, to help you really understand what it’s going to take to tackle that people pleasing and stop caring so much what other people think. The best part, it’s totally free.

Looking for something specific?

Let’s just say I have a lot of thoughts about the mindset, habits and tools that help former people pleasers and perfectionists fast track to a more confident, secure, fulfilled version of themselves. You can check them all out below or let me help you find what you’re looking for…

The first step to being more confident

If there's one thing you have probably heard over and over again if you are even a tiny bit in the personal development/self-help space, it's some version of “you have to love yourself first” or “what you want will come to you when you feel worthy of it.”

Samantha Pillsbury 2/7/23 Samantha Pillsbury 2/7/23

Dating is not a test to pass

Dating is not a test to pass. Why does dating seem to be such a kryptonite for the confidence of high-achieving women?

Samantha Pillsbury 6/16/22 Samantha Pillsbury 6/16/22

What are your priorities right now?

The promise was that this wording shift would kick you into high gear on the things that are important in your life and make you face clearly, the things that might be distracting you.

Samantha Pillsbury 6/8/22 Samantha Pillsbury 6/8/22

Why is dating so hard?

Dating is hard because it's vulnerable. Our emotions are involved and it's almost inevitable that we get hurt. But avoiding hurt isn't the goal of dating, finding connection is.

Samantha Pillsbury 5/25/22 Samantha Pillsbury 5/25/22

Dating advice to stop giving and what to say instead

Nobody wants to give bad relationship advice but sometimes, we can be speaking from our current feelings - good or bad. So we're going to do a quick recap of dating and relationship advice to stop giving and what to say instead.

Samantha Pillsbury 5/25/22 Samantha Pillsbury 5/25/22

The stigma of solo

While solo travel can help you get comfortable being alone, its most powerful benefit is learning to be comfortable with being challenged. And in this way, my philosophy toward solo travel and dating converge.

Samantha Pillsbury 4/21/22 Samantha Pillsbury 4/21/22

How can I be sure he’s right for me? Here’s why it shouldn’t matter

How do you decide if a relationship is right for you? When you are starting to get to know somebody, how can you be sure that they’re the right fit? These are common questions asked by those dating but this question has a problematic understanding of the components of a good relationship. I’m breaking down why you should stop caring about being sure.

Samantha Pillsbury 2/9/22 Samantha Pillsbury 2/9/22

To the woman who feels like love might not be in the cards for her...

I've asked myself, "Are my standards too high?" and "Did they just get lucky?" I've compared myself to friends, wondering what was different about them that maybe I should strive more to be. I wondered if maybe it was my tactics…

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On feeling negative - change isn’t always easy.

Just because we are striving to improve doesn’t mean that everything in our lives is magically better and we know how to make negative thoughts disappear. I took a good look at the harder parts and behind-the-scenes at this stage of my journey.

Samantha Pillsbury 1/17/22 Samantha Pillsbury 1/17/22

My top books for self-development

Whether or not you’re into self help books, there are always books out there that can give you new perspective and force you learn something about yourself. I collected a list of my favorites for self-development, I wanted to share with you…

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“Samantha was instrumental in helping me change my thoughts about myself and my self-worth. These are techniques that I'll be using for a long, long time!”