Ready to take control of how dating feels?
You know that there’s a lot of the dating process that is just fundamentally out of our control (namely, the behavior of others) but you want to take responsibility for how you’re showing up and do anything you can to feel more confident and secure while you’re navigating the ups and downs.
I know that you want to be in a long term, exclusive relationship.
But when you actually put yourself out there to date, you feel like it's super rare for you to find somebody you'd even be attracted to.
You're usually getting the most interest from guys that range from "meh" to "ew" and it's super discouraging.
You feel ready to graduate from situationships and low effort guys but don't understand what you're doing that keeps you ending up there.
And it feels like...
the advice you get is either the completely unhelpful kind ("it'll happen when you least expect it," "just focus on yourself," and "keep putting yourself out there") that make you feel like you have to be completely passive damsel waiting for Prince Charming to ride up to save her (and you're pretty skeptical about Prince Charming's existence)
OR the advice feels a little too close to manipulation (with specific things to say or do) that don't feel authentic to you and also involve you doing all the work to make the relationship happen.
Don't worry, girl, there's another way.
This is why I created...
EXCLUSIVE
A PROGRAM FOR THE HIGH ACHIEVING WOMEN WHO WANT TO FEEL MORE VALUED IN THEIR DATING LIFE AND MORE CONFIDENT IN WHAT THEY BRING TO THE TABLE.
For the woman who…
Knows she’s smart, hardworking, caring and brings a lot to the table but men she dates don’t seem to notice
Has no interest in another “what are we?” label-less talking stage but seems to keep ending up there
Wants to be able to date without it absorbing so many hours of analyzing messages and wondering what he’s thinking
Understands that she’s the common thread in her dating life and wants to take responsibility for her side of the dynamic
Do you want...
Your dating life to be less... "how was your day?" and more... “I made us reservations at 7pm on Thursday at that place you wanted to try." Droolworthy.
To understand what behaviors undermine your own value in the eyes of the men you're dating (Hint: it's not responding to the text too soon, there's something deeper going on) and feel empowered because when you feel the urge to slide back into those behaviors you have simple tools available to you to get you back to your confident self.
To deeply trust that the right guy is going to make an effort to date you so you don't have to constantly be the one following up for another plan (which not only makes you feel needy but then also leaves you questioning how much somebody really likes you) and as a result, dating is way less draining.
INTRODUCING…
EXCLUSIVE
INTRODUCTION - The Exclusive Framework
We'll outline the most important principle you need to understand to shift how you feel while dating, we'll look at what makes our culture value "exclusive" so much (using a ton of different examples), and ultimately, we'll walk through the Exclusive Framework - the 3 pillars that make us value something enough to commit (a simple framework that you can use again and again to identify what you can do to shift your dating experience and how you feel about yourself).
PILLAR #1 - Earned Access
We'll walk through the first pillar of the framework so you understand what it is, the most common examples that women make to undermine Earned Access and where these behaviors come from. Then we'll talk more about how you can strengthen your self-respect to command more of the treatment you want while dating.
PILLAR #2 - Memorable
In the second pillar of the Exclusive Framework, we're diving deep into how much we love ourselves (and how this can affect how others value us). We'll outline what it means to be Memorable in the Exclusive Frameowrk, common mistakes women make and the roots of why we struggle to love certain things about ourselves. Then we'll get into what to do about it!
PILLAR #3 - Discerning
And we'll round out with the third pillar of the Exclusive! Inside of this module, we'll talk about why Discerning is so important to create a long term, exclusive partnership and the underpinning of self-trust that's required to embody discernment. We'll talk about the most common examples of mistakes with this pillar and where low self-trust can come from. Then we'll dive into clarifying your ideal partner, how to deal with red flags, dealing with appearance-related insecurities and more.
Dating in the Digital Age
To dating app or not to dating app? That is only one of the lessons inside this module, where we'll go in detail into the modern world of dating including which apps you should be on and how to think about creating your profile. We'll also address the dynamics of texting in early dating!
Attachment Styles and Dating
Anxiously attached? You've probably heard of attachment styles but in this module, we'll talk specifically about how attachment styles play out in high achieving and/or high performing women. We'll address why sometimes anxiously attached people start acting avoidant. Most importantly, we'll address how you can date while anxiously attached (because yes, it's possible and no, you don't have to be perfectly healed in order to be able to date)!
All your burning dating questions answered!
Exclusive got a glow up! Now with 5x more content than the previous release, this program will answer...
Should I be waiting to respond to his text message?
Why do I never see guys on the apps that I'm attracted to?
Why do I get so stressed when I haven't heard from him for a few days (and how do I change that)?
Do I need to be on all the dating apps?
How do you deal with the fear of not finding somebody?
Is there a trick to a more successful dating profile?
Are my standards too high?
And so much more...
I’m Samantha
I've helped dozens of women build confidence, feel more secure in what they bring to the table (on a date, in a boardroom, in their bank account), and stop accepting situationships, low effort men and inconsistency.
I've had what many would consider some of the most exclusive experiences in the world (we're talking historic events, private clubs, the hardest admission processes) and this inspired a conversation about what it takes to be worth, to get access to and to be... exclusive.
So I've collected all my insights from working with those clients and my life experience into one place so you can apply it to your own life without having to go through all the trial and error. We love a time saver :)
This program will teach you how to...
Identify exactly where you overgave in past dating situations that let to guys having the guts to say “I want to keep hanging out but I’m not ready for a relationship”
Ways to build the resilience and confidence to be able to easily say no to a good-on-paper guy who’s only texting you 4 days a week
Have a new perspective on what to look for and what constitutes your “ideal guy” that makes exclusive a more likely outcome
Mindset shifts to help you feel more okay being single (even going dateless to your best friend’s wedding) so you don’t feel tempted to settle for less
Identify when you might be showing up as less than your best self and give you a simple framework to isolate what's really going on inside your own thoughts so you can make changes to get yourself back on track
Challenge the stories that have been running since your awkward phase about why you might not be "pretty enough" or why the guys wouldn't like you so you can stop letting them run the show
Fulfilling relationships are waiting…
PAY IN FULL
$297
(Lowest Price)
Lifetime access to all 40+ lessons
Workbooks, exercises and journaling to support implementing
BONUS - Sample Texts to Make Dating Less Stressful PDF
PAYMENT PLAN
$117/3 mo
($351 total)
Lifetime access to all 40+ lessons
Workbooks, exercises and journaling to support implementing
BONUS - Sample Texts to Make Dating Less Stressful PDF
FAQs
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Exclusive is a pre-recorded program so you get access to all course materials immediately upon purchase and you can work through all of the content at your own pace (you have lifetime access so you can binge it all at once or take it one piece at a time, whichever works best for you).
Updates are made to the course a few times a year to answer any questions surfaced through the comments feature of the program.
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There is not one size fits all solution for anything in our lives, especially dating - to your point, it’s so personal! But that’s not what Exclusive is trying to do. In the program, I teach you the Exclusive Framework - three pillars that are a structure you can use to evaluate what you’ve been doing and what you want to change (and rinse repeat over time). It’s meant to give you a way to look at things, not the final answer, which is how I’m able to support every unique woman inside this program.
Plus before I built Exclusive I had already supported enough women who identified as high achieving, struggled with people pleasing and anxious attachment and wanted the type of relationship we’ve talked about, and the program was informed by the best of what I used to support them.
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Only you know the answer to this. If you halfway listen to the recording and then never think about it again, you probably won't experience any change. But if you watch the recordings with an open mind, get curious about your blindspots and take on the journaling seriously, I can basically guarantee that at minimum you'll have a new level of awareness and clarity of where you have opportunities for growth when you finish.
But based on the impact I’ve seen with other women, whose results have ranged from feeling less volatile while in the process of dating, to starting new relationships with great guys and even that client I told you about who got engaged and now married, I’m pretty confident there’s more than awareness on the other side for you
If you have additional concerns, I'd definitely recommend you reach out via Instagram DM and we can discuss your specific situation so you can make a fully informed decision!
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Real talk, my friend, if you're thinking this way, you need Exclusive even more because it's exactly this mindset that's holding you back.
If I translate this question back to, here's what you're asking: "This course might help loveable people get more love. But I don’t think I’m loveable. Will these tips work for unloveable people?" You're probably feeling undervalued in your dating life because you have a list of reasons why you're not valuable so deep down, you expect people not to value you! Exclusive is your opportunity to look directly at the stories you're telling yourself about why you're not valuable and start changing them.
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Can you get into an exclusive, committed relationship without looking at your doubts about yourself? Yes.
Will you feel valued, safe and deeply loved in that relationship? That’s harder to say (because when you get into a relationship is often when all those doubts and insecurities get really loud and can often lead to self-sabotage)
Is there another way to learn how to value yourself without looking at the parts of you that feel "flawed" or shameful? Sure, but it's like saying "Can I get from point A to point B while blindfolded and without a map?" Yes, but it's going to take a heck of a lot longer and you'll accumulate more bruises along the way.
I know it seems scary or hard to look at this stuff but when you're brave enough to, you stop feeling so scared of all those elements of you. And, you set the example for others that these parts of you are loveable as well. Shame cannot exist in the light.
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Exclusive is a series of video recordings with journaling and exercises to go alongside. You could easily binge through the recordings in a day or two but you’ll get the most out of the program if you work through the exercises as directed throughout the program and give yourself time to start applying and noticing changes as you go. For best results, I’d recommend that you work through the content and exercises over the course of a few weeks, leaving a few days in between major modules of the program.
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This is the best part - you have LIFETIME access to the pre-recorded content so you can move at your own pace and come back to the materials as often as you want.
As long as I continue to offer the course, you continue to have access!
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Exclusive is $297 if you pay in full or we will have payment plans at the higher price (3 payments of $117).
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Head here for a description of all the ways I offer support!
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Due to the digital nature of this product and the time and energy invested into creating it, we do not offer refunds.
Start shifting your dating patterns today!
PAY IN FULL
$297
(Lowest Price)
Lifetime access to all 40+ lessons
Workbooks, exercises and journaling to support implementing
BONUS - Sample Texts to Make Dating Less Stressful PDF
PAYMENT PLAN
$117/3 mo
($351 total)
Lifetime access to all 40+ lessons
Workbooks, exercises and journaling to support implementing
BONUS - Sample Texts to Make Dating Less Stressful PDF